I went to visit my dad yesterday for his birthday. I see a lot of my own negative qualities in my dad (laziness, lack of responsibility, unwillingness to accept, well, responsibility for my own actions). I love my dad, because he's my dad and that sort of love is 99% unconditional (the only condition, I think, is intentional abuse or neglect). I go and visit him, even though he's only visited me once in the past eight years (twice if you count law school graduation), because he's my dad and I know I'd regret it if I didn't. I actually feel bad for him that he's not a better father, because my sister and I are pretty cool kids to have. He was a strong presence in our lives when we were younger, though, so that's good. I suppose it's just the clarity of adulthood that makes things less rose-tinted. Go figure.
I also met my mom's boyfriend. I stopped in just to do so on the way home. I'm happy my mom has someone to spend time with, becuase she was very lonely for awhile. And loneliness sucks. When I was in high school, this guy she was dating moved in with us. He was weird and had a smelly ferret and reminded me a lot of my dad (the men my mom have seriously dated since then have been completely opposite of that). But he introduced my to blues music, so it wasn't all bad.
It's weird to be an adult with parents. Well, a quasi-adult. I'm still dependant on my mom. But I have the senses and sensibilites of an adult, if not the economic freedom. So it's weird to look at my parents and see their flaws and feel empathy and all of that stuff one adult does for another.
Well, you can never go back again. Until someone invents some sort of de-aging/time machine thing. Someone ought to get onto that.
I also met my mom's boyfriend. I stopped in just to do so on the way home. I'm happy my mom has someone to spend time with, becuase she was very lonely for awhile. And loneliness sucks. When I was in high school, this guy she was dating moved in with us. He was weird and had a smelly ferret and reminded me a lot of my dad (the men my mom have seriously dated since then have been completely opposite of that). But he introduced my to blues music, so it wasn't all bad.
It's weird to be an adult with parents. Well, a quasi-adult. I'm still dependant on my mom. But I have the senses and sensibilites of an adult, if not the economic freedom. So it's weird to look at my parents and see their flaws and feel empathy and all of that stuff one adult does for another.
Well, you can never go back again. Until someone invents some sort of de-aging/time machine thing. Someone ought to get onto that.
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